Author Bill Eddy's new book, Our New World of Adult Bullies connects the dots to show how bullies at all levels of society follow the same predictable patterns of behavior.
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Bullies exist everywhere: families, workplaces, neighborhoods and communities, politics and government, and organizations of all types and sizes. And in a media landscape where conflict, crisis, chaos, and fear reign supreme, every day we see the worst behavior of celebrities, politicians, and other public figures who serve as role models.
Winners and losers. Friends and enemies. Heroes and villains. People with high-conflict personalities think almost solely in these extremes. They regularly express unmanaged emotions, routinely blame others, and do harmful things that 90% of people would never do. Bullies share these characteristics, plus a drive to dominate or destroy their victims.
“Drawing from over a decade of dedicated service in childhood anti-bullying education, I recognize the great importance and urgency of this book. Bill Eddy, through his multifaceted career, has laid bare the intricate dynamics of adult bullying, whether in the workplace or home, but also equips readers with the crucial strategies to identify, confront, and effectively tackle such behavior. We must no longer be silenced when it comes to bullying and feeling alone, enough is enough!”
—Sunnie McFadden-Curtis, advocate for women and children, filmmaker, award-winning director of Bullying: A Culture of Silence
But all bullies act in the same highly predictable patterns, regardless of their demographics and situation. By focusing on the ten hidden powers bullies employ—from their unrestrained nature and bully story to manipulating emotions and playing the victim—Bill Eddy unpacks the way bullies rely on primitive emotions and nonverbal behavior. He helps readers spot these behaviors and offers practical actions before they become immobilized by helplessness, blame, and shame.
In today’s world, we all may have an adult bully in our lives sooner or later. For anyone who has a bully in their life now, for professionals who counsel victims of bullying, and for anyone who is concerned about the fraying of our culture and society, this book gives effective strategies to prevent bullies from taking over. Eddy’s six-step approach includes useful advice on how to:
Recognize the patterns of bully behavior
Pull the plug on the bully’s story
Set limits with credible threats
Impose serious consequences
Communicate effectively about bullies to others
Stand strong with others against bullies
Our New World of Adult Bullies takes a closer look at the dangerous behavior of bullies and how to stop the behavior before it starts.
About Bill Eddy:
Bill Eddy is an attorney, therapist, mediator, and the Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He develops methods to help resolve high conflict family, workplace, and legal disputes, including EAR Statements™, BIFF Response® emails, New Ways for Families® skills training methods for potentially high conflict parents in divorce and New Ways for Work™ coaching for potentially high conflict employees. He has trained lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists in 38 states and 13 countries in managing high conflict personalities. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals for managing high conflict disputes. As a mediator, he was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center based in San Diego for 15 years. Previously, as a lawyer, he was a Certified Family Law Specialist in California for 15 years representing clients in family court. Prior to that, he provided psychotherapy for 12 years to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. His Psychology Today blog has received over 6 million views. Visit: https://highconflictinstitute.com/
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